A LETTER TO MY DEARS...

Dear Gent,

She broke up with you, left you battered and blue. She thought you would be miserable without her, actually thought you were. She gloated over it with friends, prided her hold over you with acquaintances and gave you the cold treatment when you were around. She scorned your explanations, relished your tears and hauled back hurtful words against your soft spoken ones. You were taken for granted, spurned and discarded by the angel you thought you love. She gloried in your misery.

…And now you are living with the pain and hurt. Each day reminds you of her betrayal. Same old story huh? Now you can't let go or find a reason to go on. You feel like trash, on the verge of suicide. Heh! Get off your pity-party and prove her wrong. Who says she can decide how your life should turn out? Snap out of it. You've got to let her know the pain made you better, not worse. Maybe she left for the best to come. She probably left because she doesn't fit into the bigger picture God has for you.

Dear Lady,

Oh dear! I can just see you crying your eyes out at night because he told you you can't find anyone better than him; that you would be miserable without him in your life. Maybe he just up and left you without a word. Ugh! And you are definitely proving him right by being miserable. Sorry but no sorry. Wake up girl! If he left, it is probably because there is someone best for you than him. Better a diamond than a bauble. Why leave your fulfilment and joy in the hands of a man who obviously is so callous to care a hoot how you feel. Pinch yourself and wake up. Focus on the larger picture in God's hands for you. There's the best out there for you if you but can let go the dreary past.

“What do I know of pain and betrayal?” I can feel that question in your heart now. Do I even know what you had to go through? Can I even begin to imagine the years of labour of love?

No. Of course I don’t. And I won’t create another pity-party here telling you of my own woes and pain. It may have happened to me. But I fought back and I came out of it better. I dare not imagine how horrible it was for you too. But I know one truth that can help… No one has the power to keep your life at a standstill while there’s go better. Man up! Look the pain in the eye and walk by it. Who knows…there’s a jewel waiting at the end of the tunnel.

Let the past be past dear! There’s a golden present and future waiting to be discovered. And be sure of this, you can’t see it if you keep looking back.

(c) Stephanie Ejike.
24/4/2015.